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Hi, I'm Mair Alight. I help people shine clarity on disturbing interactions at home and at work.

From boardroom to bedroom, prisoners to preschoolers, with organizations, and individuals, since 2000 I have  been learning, practicing and teaching the paradigm-shifting perspectives of Nonviolent Communication, increasing harmony and understanding in the world, reaching thousands of people.


I bring my curiosity and enthusiasm for offering tools for choice and change while accepting people just as they are.

I enjoy sharing stories, songs and images to inspire and

connect with others and I use the diversity of

my life experiences to offer relevance.


I spent 500+ hours with Marshall Rosenberg, originator/developer of Nonviolent Communication, as he modeled and shared his way of connecting with others.

As a result of my learning and practicing Nonviolent Communication over the decades, I founded The Withing Way© to offer the tips, flips and 3 Tools-not-Rules that can create lasting immediate change in people's lives.

Listen to Radio Interview with Mair Alight on Women Lead Radio as Donna Netwig, your host of Women on the Journey; Tales From the Trenches

View an article about Nonviolent Communication on Grammarly Blog

View Reverend Mair Alight - Minister of Religious Science 2009

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Lisa Michaels

"I realized how much NVC I was absorbing just through participating in the calls when I found myself using components of it with a coworker a couple of days without even thinking about it, and I decided I needed to keep the momentum going!"

"I'm amazed at how much like magic, the techniques I'm learning, help me understand relationship dynamics and ease through difficult conversations. Thank you so much much Mair and Gustavo, for all that you do to provide this service"

"Overall, I learned a great deal. I learned that to use nonviolent communication we need to slow down, we need to listen carefully to others, and choose our words carefully. There is a lot of violence in language that conveys, judgement, blame, and criticism. We hear a lot of Jackal language in the world and in our lives every day. NVC provides a great way to refocus these conversations towards feelings and needs. I believe we all need more of this."

Christina Scott

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